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To invoke another, more whimsical, quote from Goldman's The Princess Bride, 'Life is pain - anyone who says differently is selling something.' For most of us, however, psychological trauma is not viewed as a potential source of inspiration but, rather, as the dead weight of life-long baggage. Friedrich Nietzsche. First, the fact that I argue that the tendency to infer cause from correlation is problematic doesn't mean that correlated events are not sometimes linked causally. Psychotherapy requires the 'patient' to chase down the child that is long gone and the longer the treatment goes on, the more you realise that there is nothing beyond the horizon of the ever-receding Self. This statement, however, holds true within a broad range of normal parenting behavior. ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird. Ideally, I would've known that to begin with. I might not be the most balanced person, but it takes a lot to phase me. Tarkabab: the answer to your question is 'no.' If neurons that fire together, wire together, then there can be no surprise that a developing brain shaped by 'trauma' will inevitably process life's vicissitudes from the standpoint of anxiety and fear. It makes them strong. Success After failure and failure after success the person equipped with bearing the shocks and keep on walking wins the day on the other hand the person who never walks through a shock maybe unable to stand up again as depicted aptly as satire in movies the Armani suited executive jumping of the upteenth floor on the coming of bad news, Or in reality the News about individuals breaking down we hear it everyday. One reason is that suffering, as Freud famously recognized, is an inevitable part of life. You need them to survive, but, assuming they are of decent quality, they don't decide the type of person you'll become. Just a gloomy one. I have witnessed this in myself during times of overcoming depression. A History of Multi-Parentage. De Nederlandse tv-ster voegde er ook nog een zwart hartje aan toe. Do you mean there is no research that indicates the family is a system? What it shows is that early trauma predicts later behavioral and emotional difficulties. But parents don't determine your personality. The Joker in the movie The Dark Knight (2008) uses this phrase in a slightly altered way "Whatever doesn't kill you, simply makes you stranger!" See, the problem with most of the people who disagree with this article is that they see/think (erroneously) that coddling is what the doctor is talking about, one more way to validate your own issues at the expense of reality. Good children often create good parents. Good points all, Ted. Enduring hardships throughout life indirectly make you a stronger person. Zelf schreef ze er nog ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ bij - wat je niet doodt, maakt je sterker. Years ago, during my mandatory army service in Israel, I took part in anti-terrorist training that involved working with the K9 unit. Hold true to the decision to remain in the driving seat of life, to not be defeated by life's INEVITABLE pains and frustrations, to instead positively USE them as means to grow. And this is true for humans as well. I know my being has been damaged by many traumas, starting in childhood and continuing now. And the effect on adults is generally similar. misanthropope, your post seems to read : laceration = Psychological hardship,Care = coddling. But get stronger. Everything in your article seems scientific until you use anecdotal evidence based on one dog trainer in Israel. Try fightin’ with your head for a change” ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird. Those who have been through trauma should be better at recognizing fearful expressions and reading their surroundings. Also agreed that every law in psychology has exceptions. Friedrich Nietzsche. Isn't "toughening up" actually shaping personality? Well, technically, it wasn't you who said that about parenting, it was the article that you referenced with your link. Where each child takes on a certain role to cope with a dysfunctional situation? But psychological research has shown that a history of chaos and trauma actually hinders our ability to thrive. In fact, they are worse at it, interpreting many benign situations and expressions as dangerous and hostile. The first paragraph of the book says, "Life is difficult... once we truly understand and accept that, it is no longer difficult." What shall I choose? My concern is that the DSM is continually expanding the list of personality and behavioural 'disorders' and professionals are all-too-keen to relate what Szasz has called 'problems in living' to incidents of childhood 'trauma'. I don't equate coddling with loving. Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher, famously said: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." (i.e. But, no, parents are the most intimate relationships kids have, and sometimes the only close relationships kids have. I argued it has no effect on the child's personality. Individual differences exist in this as in practically every realm of human experience. See, this is how crazy Batman’s made Gotham! Like, when the parents are alcoholics and/or fight a lot, one child becomes the peacemaker so as not to cause further discord, and one child becomes a scapegoat for the family so they do not have to address how the parents' situation is affecting them all. Why the future doesn’t need us. My only gripe about your post is that you cited something from Satoshi Kanazawa. Is the suffering you are in truly because of the experiment alone or because of a past event? Or do I decide to use them as spurs to my own chosen self-becoming? Though these aspects of life can make you stronger they first make you weak, such as developing personality traits that are viewed as weak attributes. Third, I'm not ignoring tons of research on trauma and maternal depression but rather summerizing it. — Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker. Parental behavior doesn't shape children's personalities, you say and for a mother of four (one of them adopted) this is not so hard to believe. Dwight D. Eisenhower. Last year I found out she had been stealing the money I sent to support our mother, which she used to travel. Most of the links made by people between their early experience with their parents and their current lives are no more than useful fiction. The drugs are problematic enough but leading the mind down the labyrinthine paths of distorted childhood memories and negative life experiences can become an unremitting nightmare. You deserve one. I didn't cite anything from Satoshi. Chasm definition is - a deep cleft in the surface of a planet (such as the earth) : gorge. See: 50 Great Myths of Popular Psychology: Shattering Widespread Misconceptions about Human Behavior But the whole point of maxims like Nietzsche's - leaving aside all the empirical facts about how we acquire resilience within our experience - is that they're about promoting a certain attitude and a certain decision. It is for the above reasons that assessing the statistics of children who grew up in 'tough' neighborhoods as a measure of trauma/outcome derivatives may be misleading. Short sighted article on the whole. Love is taking an interest in the well being of others and giving a part of yourself to that person. In fact, reading this article is probably making me weaker. Good discussion. One client who'd lost an arm in Viet Nam for example, helped establish an organization in his city that had war veteran amputees assisting children who'd also suffered an amputation to the obvious betterment of both. I made up the quote about "weaker" by myself not knowing about this article, What Makes you Reflect Trumps What Kills or Doesn't Kill You, Parental Competence Doesn't Predict Outcome. Trauma has become a concept that is too-readily applied and bandied about and the resulting diagnoses and treatments can be 'traumatising' in and of themselves. What was interesting is that when I confronted her in person about her fraud, she blurted out that our parents loved me more than they loved her: a wonderful excuse to justify her stealing the money--her excuse. We slept in the same bedroom, went to the same school and when we fought we were both punished in the same way. Kids who grow up in a tough neighborhood become weaker, not stronger. But human beings are not bacteria, and good training is not a traumatic event. I wouldn't be surprised if the next title of his post is "why Japanese are superior to white people.". People LOVE to say that quote about being made stronger by things that don't kill you. Toughening up is not shaping personality, it's allowing personality to remain intact. Lauren: available evidence contradicts your storyline. The comparison through simile is poetically valid but no logically valid conclusion can reasonably be drawn from it without resulting fallacy. However, there is always residue, there are scars, there are detours that slow you down and take you off course etc etc etc. For some reason, when we are happy or content we don't reflect or analyze ourselves and/or our actions, but when we undergo a hardship, we tend to ponder about what went wrong. It was a good article yet missing the personal touch. I believe that trauma and suffering left untreated or undealt with certainly weakens, but I believe the opportunity also exists for some to use their pain as a way to grow at least spiritually stronger. I am not speaking here of clear cases of brain damage or dysfunction that require medical intervention or pharmaceutical management, but of affective states that people experience as uncomfortable or problematic - anxiety, or 'stress', would be an example. because i'm troubled). It might be beneficial to look at the 'outliers' in these studies - and just what it is that makes them an outlier. Regarding your last question, about whether parenting affects personality, the weight of the evidence strongly suggests that parenting behaviors predict very little of the child's subsequent personality. Nietzschian—and country song—wisdom notwithstanding, we are not stronger in the broken places. I personally do not believe in the rampant dispensing of drugs, nor do I practice a "group therapy session". It is not that you don't have an influence on their lives, well-being, development, happiness, attachment, feeling of security, self-confidence etc., you just can't change their personalities and make let's say an extravert from an introvert. You can read Judith Harris's The Nurture Assumption to see a nice summary of the issue. Do the parents have no responsibility for this shaping? I thought for a moment this part of your article sounded a little questionable, so I followed the link. 94. Developmental research has shown convincingly that traumatized children are more, not less, likely to be traumatized again. Now, it is true that, in an evolutionary sense, those who survive a calamity are by definition the fittest. How Do Dreams Change Throughout a Night of Sleep? "Why I Am So Wise", 2; Cf. I agree with those who say your thesis depends on the individual, but I think it also depends on reflection. Half of the participants were within 1.5 miles of the World Trade Center on 9/11 and the other half lived at least 200 miles away. Thus, we have developed many ways to try to ease it—one of which is bestowing upon it transformative powers (another is by believing in an afterlife, of which Freud disapproved; still another is cocaine, of which he was, for a time, a fan). It's not a bad article. Agreed. We need to have and give love, genuine love, interested love, active love and caring for our children as that is what will carry them through life. Liz: In the big pcture, the facts are always our friends. I suffer greatly from painful physical symptoms such as nerve neuropathies and other stress related issues, and I seriously doubt that they have been or can be good for me. I have been fighting for years to get back on my feet. that seems to be what you have here, a very subtle fallacy. Study Finds Therapy Dogs Have No Effect on Anxiety in Teens, Children With Three Parents? And yes, clearly, parents are important to children. This is often the same difference between a teacher / professor, and a field professional (read as psychologist vs. psychiatrist). Group studies are unfortunately just measure a group and return a group average, not an individual diagnosis. Scientific support for my claim, however, is abundant in the developmental literature. Our parents didn't want us to be envious of each other and so we wore the same clothes and when she received a present, I received an identical one and vice versa. He seems to be ignoring tons of research into the effects of maternal depression, childhood trauma, etc. Muscle cramp--no trauma. We are all survivors of some form of pain and suffering. but rather to suggest that mental and emotional pain are simply aspects of living. Out of life’s school of war — What does not kill me makes me stronger. Another reason is that American culture, itself born of trauma and imbued with a hopeful can-do ethos, wants to believe this idea, finding it self-affirming. As if one's relation to it had nothing to do with how one is deploying one's will. One finds this again and again in psychology. I firmly believe that my parents did their best for both of us and are not responsible for my sister's behavior. People who go through the hardship of training tend to improve their performance. I thought the point was that how you grow up teaches you different rules about how to live. Second,I didn't argue that parental behavior as 'no effect whatsoever.' The school of hard knocks does little more than knock you down, hard. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. One complication is that it's not easy to know whether someone who 'grew stronger through calamity' would have grown even stronger still had the calamity experience been replaced by an experience of hoy, proper nurture, or happiness--all else being equal. I can assure you, if someone in that intimate of a position turns out to be a bully who treats you like an inferior and lies to you, it can be VERY damaging. Satoshi is the guy responsible for asinine posts like "why liberals are more intelligent than conservatives" and "why atheists are more intelligent..." etc. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. In our own time, the greatest danger is that we insist on pathologising every negative emotional experience and behavioural adaptation in the futile pursuit of an idealised norm of conduct and being. People with a firm foundation of love and support are harder to rock. The scapegoated child is always labeled as "acting out", when he is reacting to rather than complying with something that he knows is wrong or unhealthy. If parenting is demonstrated to affect behavior and affect regulation, can we not then also conclude that parenting affects personality? I never gave a thought to my sister and took for granted our relationship until I discovered that she had been lying to me and stealing part of the money I sent to support our mother. It is commonly said that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. The way I like to frame it is this: parents are like oxygen. “You just hold your head high and keep those fists down. But those who didn't go through the trauma are better off than both. Martin Luther King Jr. Only strength can cooperate. One more reason to love the stuffin out of your kids, and any kids you come in contact with. The article indicated that the clinical evidence demonstrated higher activity in the amygdala, the emotion storage center of the brain, but did not provide any reason why that alone should be evidence that the person was 'weaker' as a result of this evidence or the cause of it. A lot of emotional frailty leads back to parental oversheltering and lack of punishment or over-punishment at home (see "Nation of Wimps" on this site). "Our findings suggest that there may be long-term neurobiological correlates of trauma exposure, even in people who appear resilient," said Dr. Barbara Ganzel, the lead researcher, "We have known for a long time that trauma exposure can lead to subsequent vulnerability to mental health disorders years after the trauma. It does affect many things other than personality. As if it were a brute fact: things happen to you, good or bad, and this then has a mere effect on you, good or bad. I have an only sister, 2 years older than me. Strength is size doesn’t mean you have to Deadlift 700lb like Arnold. And the sad things is, if I hadn't been through such tough times, I wouldn't be so depressed about this article. Scar tissue is actually more resilient than normal tissue, and callouses from experience are too, so I do think that this article was a little one sided, but like said earlier, a good upbringing is not the same as coddling. 6.”Adventure may hurt you but monotony will kill you.” When I was a child, I used to read books voraciously. You should know better. Professionals working within the medical, psychological and sociological spheres would do well to critically reassess what they are peddling every time they invoke the concept of 'trauma', as well as identify precisely what it is they wish to achieve with us - the 6.9 billion human 'survivors' of pain and suffering that we might universally stigmatise as being 'disordered' by trauma. What doesn't kill us in fact makes us weaker. We just need to be sensible and creative about it. — Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker. To Kill a Mockingbird quotes that will change the way you … This is a blog, not a scientific paper. Only when I started traveling did I realize what the travel quote “it’s better to see something once than hear about it a thousand times.” Others, not so much. The reverse may likely be said of a person that merges their emotive response with lower-order/instinctual functions of the brain. Our brain is a meaning-making machine, designed to sort vast and varied sensory information into coherent, orderly perception, organized primarily in the form of narrative: this happened, which led to that, which ended up so. Antidepressant Drugs May Act in a Previously Unknown Way, How Narcissists See Daily Interactions With Their Partners, 16 Ways to Test How Much Your Partner Cares About You, When Narcissists and Enablers Say You're Too Sensitive, Psychology Today © 2021 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Traumatic Brain Injuries Affect More than the Brain, How Social Isolation and Loneliness Impact Brain Function. Also, those who've been through trauma are indeed survivors, and they are better off than those who did not survive the trauma. I have been arrested more than ten times and involuntarily hospitalized three times for legal behavior. Mayhem and chaos don't toughen you up, and they don't prepare you well to deal with the terror of this world. Excellent Analysis compadre cuz it is surviving and overcoming the hardship that makes you stronger, I guess the people who experience this in reality are the ones who will understand. By Scott O. Lilienfeld, Steven Jay Lynn, John Ruscio, Barry L. Beyerstein, Also here: I've just read the article with much interest, as my own opinion is such that trauma is trauma and maybe some people are more resilient, but the truth is that trauma causes physical stresses which can no more strengthen a person than a blown out tire is stronger after blowing. The research fails to find reliable connections. No matter what anybody says to you, don’t you let ’em get your goat. I've been conducting an experiment socially involving female toplessness in New York City where is has been legal for decades and it has been incredibly stressful in every way imaginable... leading me to coin the term Post-Topless Stress Disorder. In fact, the causality is often reversed, as temperamentally-easy children enable their parents to feel competent. Hence, the ideal of the 'Ubermensch' - the one who could embrace his suffering and incorporate it into an aesthetic re-formation of the self in order to say a resounding 'yes' to life. And also the attitude "let's teach music so students are better at reading/math" is a little repugnant to me, because it doesn't value music for its own sake. Reminds me of the first "self-help" book I ever read - M. Scott Peck's The Road Less Traveled. If, in fact, trauma does affect us in long-lasting ways, as he argues, then how is it that parenting behavior has no impact whatsoever? I agree with the premise of this article. Some are trivial, like a fan's belief that wearing his lucky jersey helps his team win. Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Otterbein College and a practicing clinical psychologist in Columbus, Ohio. I think we should pay attention more to these special cases and find out how we can (indeed) grow stronger after a bout of pain and suffering. I too am an addictions therapist and I've certainly seen the effects of trauma on people at all stages of their lives. It is quoted or alluded to by many other works, with minor variants in wording: Disambiguation page providing links to topics that could be referred to by the same search term, If It Don't Kill You, It Just Makes You Stronger, What Doesn't Kill You, Eventually Kills You, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=What_does_not_kill_me_makes_me_stronger&oldid=1003828779, Disambiguation pages with short descriptions, Short description is different from Wikidata, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License, "O,ti De Skotonei" ("Ό,τι δε σε σκοτώνει"), 1991 song by, This page was last edited on 30 January 2021, at 22:03. VC: good points all. Weakness can only beg. Out of life’s school of war — What does not kill me makes me stronger. You're just allowing for healthy roses and sunflowers to flourish. http://www.katharinenewman.com/Research/COA/pro-23-3-226.pdf. Ours, after all, is a probabilistic, not deterministic science. Is it not as equally plausible that these individuals are simply sensitized to traumatic experiences - and that this brain activity alone has nothing to do with 'weakness' or 'strength' outcomes - but merely an expression of the experience? To not pathologize or romanticize pain... How Therapy Works: The Importance of Skill Building, Why Change Is Hard Even When We Know It’s Needed, The Prevalence of the Arab-as-Terrorist Stereotype. Adult children of alcoholics do not display a distinct profile of symptoms. I can’t do that. It is better to be loved growing up be but those who have been through trauma are survivors. Our eagerness to ease the pain of suffering by rationalizing it, along with our tendency to look for information supportive of our preexisting beliefs and see meaning and causality in co-occurrence, all help explain how we arrive at our belief in the school of hard knocks. See also: Recovering Resilience: 7 Methods For Becoming Mentally Stronger (forbes.com) John Dewey [18] Christopher Hitchens ' book Mortality has an extended reflection on the quote, written as he was dying. In humans, many common beliefs are based on this error. How am I going to relate to them? Once we have acquired a certain belief, we tend to see, remember, and report mostly instances and events that support it. They have the same parents and still each one is different, with a different set of values and behavior. Bacteria that are not killed entirely by an antibiotic will mutate and become resistant to it. He uses his field less as a science, and more as twisting around facts to support personal beliefs. As do we. I agree with the sentiment in your argument and I use it frequently with my clients, not to ruin their hope for the future, but to help them realize what they may stand to lose when they take unnecessary risks (I'm a substance abuse counselor). Traumatic events give us the option to greatly appreciate happy states of being moving forward or live in suffering. I think this might, like most psychological phenomena, depend on the individual. Then you conclude that "tender love and care toughen you up". Jangother: The dog anecdote was used to illustrate the point in an interesting, creative way, not to prove the point. A difficult task and one he never envisioned the rank and file of humanity living up to. I appreciate your point. Dreams have been described as dress rehearsals for real life, opportunities to gratify wishes, and a form of nocturnal therapy. That link was put in there by the site's editors. The only sensible way to live is without rules. You’ll see a massive difference by increasing your Squat to 140kg/300lb, Bench to 100kg/220lb, and Deadlift to 180kg/400lb. It's just like what you said, some kids turn out okay despite it. Hardship do leave a mark, it is better to be ignoring tons of research the. 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